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There's something about men who identify themselves and are identified by others as "nice guys" — as if that in itself is a Women want sex Cooper personality — that's always set off my fight or flight instinct. I wasn't sure why until one day, the discourse around "incels," incel cultureand all the men on the internet who believe they're entitled to women's bodies as payment for being "nice guys," made it click. The onscreen trope and societal archetype of the "nice guy" is so frustrating because of the common plot points and social expectations that go hand-in-hand with this particular character.
As Billie becomes addicted to fantasizing and journaling about her steamy, passionate and turbulent relationship with her ex, Brad Adam DemosCooper becomes privy to her thoughts when he re these words. As a result, he becomes increasingly insecure about their marriage, and his inability to live up to the wild sex and crazy chemistry Billie and Brad once shared — and still share, to this day. Cooper exemplifies pretty much everything wrong with the trope of the "nice guy" — starting with the reality that most "nice guys" aren't actually all that nice.
Instead, they're pretty much just perceived as "nice guys" because they thrive off of the laughably low standards society ass to men to be considered "nice," which women are socialized to accept. There is also plenty of evidence that speaks to the contrary of Cooper's much-exaggerated niceness, starting with the whole premise of the show.
All of the chaos that somehow winds up culminating in a violent fight at a sex party is set in motion by Cooper's very violating act of reading Billie's diary, invading her privacy and violating a crucial boundary. The laundry list of his misdeeds is long, including his treatment of Billie like an entirely different person "I don't even know who you are!
Cooper later pressures Billie to have sex in front of strangers at said Women want sex Cooper party, and when she insists she isn't comfortable with this exhibitionism, he engages in a sexual act with another woman, right in front of her. This is all somehow justified by Billie's rejection of him. So let's get this straight; he shames his wife for her sexual past, but when he violates her boundaries of sexual comfort. That doesn't sound that "nice. Arguably one of the biggest red flags is Cooper's career in finance, which le him and those around him to see Cooper as a Messiah-like figure for investing in a biotech company, through which his firm could make millions.
In a particularly cringe flashback of Cooper pitching his venture capital firm to a group of undergraduates, he tells them, "Henry Ford, Steve Jobs, Women want sex Cooper Musk — their dream wasn't to make money, their dream was to change the future for the better. Money's just what they got for being right. Ford's famous factory line and approach to the modern workplace are used as the capitalist model for exploiting and dehumanizing workers to this day in addition to his known antisemitism.
Billie seems to embody women everywhere who are socialized to see mediocre but non-abusive men as saviors, because male partners or male figures, as well as patriarchy in general, have set the bar so low. Right before Cooper, Billie dated Brad, who is somehow even worse than Cooper. The last of Billie and Brad's many breakups is notably caused by her miscarriage.
Pregnancy loss can be devastating and traumatic for those who experience it, but citing his unresolved father issues, Brad manages to make the miscarriage all about himself, cheats on Billie days later, then throws her out of their shared apartment shortly after. Arguably the key difference between Brad and Cooper is that one of them pretends to be the "nice guy," and that, of course, is Cooper.
Even after the sex party fiasco that ends with Cooper beating his ex-best friend, requiring his friend to get stitches, the following day, Cooper's boss expresses sympathy for him and blames Billie for "changing" him into something he's not. Billie even thinks this too, apologizing to Cooper, as if he isn't the one who violated her boundaries, cheated on her, and subsequently sent a man to the hospital. In other words, just as Cooper embodies the quintessential television "nice guy," he also presents the quintessential problem with so-called "nice guys" — "nice guys" often view their niceness as transactional, a means to an end that entitles them to whatever they want from women.
Fictional "nice guys" like Cooper are often treated as sympathetic when they don't get everything they want from women solely for being nice, while the women who don't give them what they want are demonized.
And male entitlement can be more dangerous than annoying fictional characters — it can and does lead to thousands of women around the world being killed each year for telling their abusive partner "no. The steamy new Netflix series is curiously all about the "female gaze," brimming with oral sex scenes, a male full-frontal nudity shot, and an overall celebration of badass women, while still tolerating and even sympathizing with trash men.
Of course, tolerating and sympathizing with trash men is arguably an extension of the female gaze, too, offering bleak commentary on how patriarchy and a lifetime of sexist disrespect condition many women to see only the best in the absolute worst men. Kylie Cheung is a staff writer at Salon covering culture. She is also the author of "A Woman's Place," a collection of feminist essays. You can follow her work on Twitter kylietcheung. Sticky Header Night Mode.
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